Friday’s BOLD LAW…from KW MAPS NLP Coach George Gillas
If its not in your schedule it doesn’t exist…
And if it’s not in your family’s schedule, it doesn’t exist for them either!
Many of my clients are facing the additional challenge of having kids and spouses at home when it used to be that everyone had somewhere to be all day long. How do we suddenly manage all these people under one roof? How do you conduct business when you no longer have an office and you find yourself working from the dining room table?
One solution that came from a coaching call this week is the planned (in your calendar) weekly or daily “family meeting”. My client has two school age kids home from school. Her husband is also working from home now so it’s crowded. And noisy. And full of distractions.
The solution was to have the kids agree that, under normal circumstances, they would be in school from about 8:30 to 3:30 M – F. so they need to imagine, after they get their school assignments done, that they are still in school. There is no refrigerator or kitchen in school. Mom is not there to entertain them while they are in school. And the reality is that they are home with mom… so compromise is needed.
Each day from 12 – 1 mom will have lunch with the kids. From 8 am to noon, the dining room is off limits because kids are “in school” and mom is “at work.” After lunch kids are back at school and mom is back at the office until 3:30 when she “picks them up from school”.
Reality check… this is going to take some creativity depending on the age of the kids and the size of the house. The big lesson here is to get it all in your schedule… and for the kids to get it on their schedule as well. Think about the self-discipline lessons that can be learned now. Consider how powerful it can be for kids to understand that work time is work time and play time is different.
If needed, have that family meeting. Create a schedule that everyone can agree to, understand, and follow. Put it up in the kitchen (that’s where everyone seems to hang out…) and other places around the house. Work during work and then remember to play during play time.
This is an interesting and challenging time we are going through together. Those who are flexible, creative, resourceful, and optimistic will come through this with new skills and disciplines that will serve to take them to the top when things get back to normal. Those who are unwilling or unable to make changes will suffer because the world will be different post-COVID. We can count on that.
Contributed by KCN leader Don Aldrich, Faye Humphrey & KW MAPS NLP Coach George Gillas