Friday’s BOLD LAW from KW MAPS NLP Coach George Gillas… ” If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten “
Do what you’ve always done, and you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.
This is the time of year that we start looking at what will be different for next year. People make changes in their lives differently. There is no right or wrong, good or bad, better or worse. There is only what does or does not work for you. It’s a powerful thing to know where you are in the process of changing. And change is a process!
Master Minds this week has provided you with a load of information for creating your plan. Looking at the steps below… where are you in the process of doing things differently in business, health, finances, spirituality, relationships, etc.?
Here’s what the research tells us; there are six separate stages to making a change and having it stick. This comes from the work of three Ph.D. researchers in a fascinating book called Changing for Good.
Pre-contemplation: Everyone else thinks you need to change. You do not see the problem.
Contemplation: You see the problem and most of your focus is on the past and the problem rather than the future and possibilities.
Planning: Your shifting focus moves more towards the future and you decide that having that future is better than being where you are, so you design a plan to get there.
Action: You put the plan into action and take the steps necessary to achieve it.
Maintenance: You continue in the action steps to maintain your new-found behaviors. This could last for the rest of your life – think AA.
Termination: Exiting the cycle of change, the new you is permanent.
How does this apply to the BOLD Law?
Who are you making the change for? Have you invested the time to deeply consider what you need to do and how you will go about it? Are you comfortable with big changes all at once or is your mindset more about making small steps and gaining confidence along the way?
Is the plan to do things differently truly yours or are you following what has worked for someone else? Do you have a compelling picture of the “new you” or what these new behaviors will do for you? Are you doing this to move away from something you don’t want or is it about moving towards what you do want?
Here’s what we do know. Change, for it to succeed, has to be your idea. For change to succeed over the long-haul it needs to be your plan, not someone else’s. Moving toward what you want has a better likelihood of success than moving away from what you don’t want.
And it takes, on average 66 days to form a habit.
Think. Visualize. Plan. Act. Maintain. Succeed.
Contributed by KCN leader Don Aldrich & KW MAPS NLP Coach George Gillas