Friday BOLD LAW…from KW MAPS NLP Coach George Gillas…Complaining = garbage magnet
Complaining = Garbage Magnet
Focusing on complaining, when you think about it, is a focus on the past. We complain about how things should have, would have, or could have been. They didn’t work out that way, did they? Because if they did, we wouldn’t be complaining.
Consider the idea that to create a new solution you need to acquire new information. In other words, trying to solve a problem without new thinking (which requires new data) IS the popular definition of insanity, isn’t it. You expect different result by grinding through the same old thoughts.
When you can learn from the past, that changes things because you get exposure to ideas that are new to you, even though they are wrapped in old events. Can we agree, however, that when you are complaining you are not likely to be open to new ideas?
Complaining also equals “closed mind.”
If we can agree on the idea that you need new information to create new solutions, then stop putting your energy into complaining about something that has already taken place. Unless you have created a way to travel back in time and change things, your efforts of complaining are futile. And, just in case you’re thinking that changing things would be great, I challenge you to watch the movie “The Butterfly Effect” with Ashton Kutcher. The only thing you can guarantee if you could change the past is that the results would be different today. Not better – just different.
So, we can’t change the past and complaining is a waste of time – can we agree?
Instead ask future-based, solution-oriented questions such as:
What can I learn from this so next time something like this comes along, I can handle it better?
What can I learn from this so next time something like this comes along, I can avoid it completely?
What is the lesson that, when I get it, will make me a better person?
What is the one thing I can take from this experience that will make me more resilient in the future?
You cannot change the past. And you cannot control your first thought. You CAN control the ones that follow. Seek solutions. Be future oriented not stuck in complaints about the past.
Contributed by KCN leader Don Aldrich, Faye Humphrey & KW MAPS NLP Coach George Gillas